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By Slade Shaw
\nAuthor of\u00a0Why Men Pull Away<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Learn exactly what pushes men to leave\u2026and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected<\/p>\n

Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

8 Differences Between True Love and Fake Love<\/h2>\n

\u201cIf you love someone but rarely make yourself available to him or her, that is not true love.\u201d<\/p>\n

-Thich Nhat Hanh<\/p>\n

Guys don\u2019t always say what they mean, whether it\u2019s unintentional or not.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it\u2019s a case of miscommunication where a man has trouble expressing himself, and you get the wrong message.<\/p>\n

For instance, he could be fresh out of a relationship and didn\u2019t know what he was getting into when started going out with you.<\/p>\n

He might have thought at first that he was ready to commit, but somewhere down the line he realized that he couldn\u2019t give you what you wanted.<\/p>\n

And as he\u2019s working out his feelings, he\u2019ll give you what\u2019s usually known as \u201cmixed signals\u201d.<\/p>\n

Then there are times when he knows exactly what he wants, and will do anything to get it\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026even if it means lying to your face.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll charm you into bed, then split the scene once he\u2019s gotten what he wanted.<\/p>\n

Either way, it\u2019s NOT the kind of love you\u2019re after.<\/p>\n

So how do you know if he\u2019s not feeling \u201call that\u201d about being with you, whatever reason it may be?<\/p>\n

And how do you spot signs of true love so you don\u2019t waste your time on the WRONG guy?<\/p>\n

Personally, I don\u2019t believe in any of that mixed signals business. No matter what he says, it\u2019s always his actions and behavior that tell the real story.<\/p>\n

Witt that, here are the 8 biggest signs to help you know whether he feels a deep, heartfelt love for you\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026or he\u2019s just taking you for a ride.<\/p>\n

Bear in mind that you can spot these telltale clues in any guy, regardless of how long you\u2019ve known him. These traits manifest on a deeper level for long-term relationships, and you\u2019ll see early indications for a newer guy.<\/p>\n

At any rate, you\u2019d best find out as soon as possible \u2013 here we go\u2026<\/p>\n

Sign of True Love #1: You\u2019re connected to him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You might hear some couples talking about the strong connection they have. They seem to know what the other is thinking, or even finish each other\u2019s sentences.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s borderline psychic, and they swear there\u2019s something supernatural going on.<\/p>\n

But the real reason couples like them are so in tune is because they pay attention to each other.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing complicated about it \u2013 they basically cultivate the habit of responding when one of them is trying to make a connection.<\/p>\n

For example, you might say to your partner while you\u2019re walking down the street, \u201cHey honey, check out that Prius with the Hello Kitty decals\u2026I can\u2019t decide if it\u2019s cute or trashy!\u201d<\/p>\n

If he just ignores you or shrugs with an apathetic, \u201cHmm\u201d, then the connection between you might not be as strong as you think.<\/p>\n

But if he says something like, \u201cYeah, definitely trashy\u2026 that car\u2019s perfect for you!\u201d with a cheeky grin, then it means he\u2019s really paying attention to you.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s not just about pointing out something interesting to your partner. It can be more subtle, like bringing up a story and seeing how the other reacts, getting a quick opinion on your outfit, or asking for help with the laundry.<\/p>\n

These are \u201csmall\u201d ways couples try to connect with each other, and it takes practice for couples to get into this groove. You\u2019ll see those who\u2019ve been together for some time are naturally good at this.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, a superficial kind of love doesn\u2019t make the effort to make these little connections.<\/p>\n

If a guy continuously brushes off your attempts to connect (and not because he just happens to be having a bad day), then he might not be that into the relationship as you think.<\/p>\n

Sign of True Love #2: It\u2019s all about clarity<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When a guy isn\u2019t really in love, it\u2019s not really important to him whether he\u2019s sending a clear message or not.<\/p>\n

What do I mean by this?<\/p>\n

Well for starters, he has the habit of letting you know at the last minute if he can\u2019t make it or he\u2019s running late.<\/p>\n

And when you\u2019re not together, it usually feels like he\u2019s gone off the grid.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t hear from him for long stretches of time, and he won\u2019t bother to let you know what\u2019s going on with him.<\/p>\n

Even if he seems like the most charming, fun and sweet guy when you are together \u2013 especially in bed\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026he probably isn\u2019t that committed if his actions outside of that are ambiguous.<\/p>\n

True love is the opposite of that, which means he\u2019ll leave no room for you to wonder if he\u2019s going to flake out on you or not.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s going to make sure that the way he communicates with you is absolutely clear and \u201con the level\u201d.<\/p>\n

True Love Sign #3: He actually cares about being TOGETHER<\/strong><\/h3>\n

With a relationship purely based on lust, there\u2019s little to no effort involved when it comes to doing things that bring a couple closer.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s that \u201cI\u2019ll see you when I see you\u201d kind of vibe, and you don\u2019t feel any sort of GROWTH between you.<\/p>\n

A man who\u2019s in love is going to make sure he gets to spend time with you, even if he has to rearrange his whole schedule.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s a sure sign he\u2019s super serious if these are ritual type of activities, and not just getting busy between the sheets.<\/p>\n

When a guy\u2019s creating shared experiences, he\u2019s also interested in forming a richer, DEEPER connection with you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not always about going on a weekend getaway or bungee jumping\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026but rather smaller things like huddling together for a weekend Netflix marathon or a Wednesday brunch.<\/p>\n

Real love isn\u2019t always focused on chasing the \u201chigh\u201d that comes with romance, but also creating a stable routine that forms the foundation of your relationship.<\/p>\n

Click here to discover the sure-fire way to make him stay\u2026\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

True Love Sign #4: He\u2019s not afraid to push your limits<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Couples who truly care for each other aren\u2019t worried about being likeable or agreeable all the time.<\/p>\n

If they have a difference of opinion, they can handle the fact that they don\u2019t see eye-to-eye on it \u2013 especially when it comes to \u201cdealbreaker\u201d kind of topics.<\/p>\n

More importantly, they can give their HONEST thoughts on the matter, even if it\u2019s the polar opposite of what the other person believes.<\/p>\n

Someone who\u2019s more interested in a one-shot kind of deal (rather than being in it for the long run) isn\u2019t going to risk rocking the boat.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll be in politician mode, saying and doing everything to keep the good times rolling.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s thinking, \u201cWhat\u2019s the point of being honest about it if it\u2019s going to piss her off?\u201d<\/p>\n

But a man in love isn\u2019t as worried about the ups and downs, or the disagreements\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026because he\u2019s more interested in knowing the REAL you\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026even if it means having to iron out the kinks.<\/p>\n

He knows it\u2019s a messy process, but he doesn\u2019t mind.<\/p>\n

Amanda, a friend of mine was telling me about her husband, Donnie:<\/p>\n

\u201cYou know, at first I thought he was kind of a jerk for being so straight up with me. But he always respected me even though we disagreed on something.\u201d<\/p>\n

Then she added, \u201cAnd if I messed up in some way, he called me out on it without making me feel bad. I\u2019d get mad at Donnie before, but now I respect him for not just telling me what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to.\u201d<\/p>\n

True Love Sign #5: He meets you halfway\u2026or MORE than that<\/strong><\/h3>\n

We all know relationships are about give and take, but a guy in love is way more interested in GIVING than taking.<\/p>\n

And when he gives, you\u2019re 100% sure there\u2019s no strings attached. He does it because he wants to, and it doesn\u2019t matter how much he gets back in return.<\/p>\n

Real love doesn\u2019t keep score, so your guy isn\u2019t going to bring up the time he waited half an hour because you had a last-minute emergency at work, or that he had to cancel poker night with the guys to see you.<\/p>\n

Superficial relationships usually have self-serving agendas (i.e. sex, money, bragging rights).<\/p>\n

When a guy is more concerned about having the favor returned, you\u2019ll feel it \u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026even if he doesn\u2019t say something like, \u201cI did this for you, now what are you going to do for me?\u201d<\/p>\n

Furthermore, a guy who isn\u2019t really in love tends to be more selfish about his preferences.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll likely insist on the stuff he likes rather than asking what you want.<\/p>\n

It could be small stuff like where to eat, which movie to watch, or if you prefer the window or aisle seat on the plane.<\/p>\n

It could also be things on a larger scale, like deciding where the relationship\u2019s headed.<\/p>\n

Fickle (a.k.a. Fake) love doesn\u2019t really do well with making room for compromise, and couples are likely to split over this.<\/p>\n

Discover Why Men Pull Away \u2013 and make sure he\u2019ll NEVER leave you\u2026\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

True Love Sign #6: Your guy has \u201ctunnel vision\u201d<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You can tell a guy\u2019s in love with you if he\u2019s trying to imply that you\u2019re \u201cdifferent\u201d from other women.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll make you feel special \u2013 it\u2019s as if you\u2019re the only one that exists in his world.<\/p>\n

Men interested in a serious, committed relationship are looking for that one girl who stands above the rest.<\/p>\n

And if he thinks you\u2019re The One, he WILL drop some hints to let you know.<\/p>\n

Chances are he\u2019ll be indirect about it because men often have trouble expressing themselves emotionally.<\/p>\n

Feelings aren\u2019t as familiar territory to them as it is for women (although there are exceptions of course).<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it\u2019s a bit of a challenge for him to untangle something as complex as LOVE.<\/p>\n

So he\u2019ll try to let you know by saying something along the lines of \u201cYou\u2019re not like other women\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ve never met anyone like you.\u201d<\/p>\n

Someone who doesn\u2019t feel as strongly for you won\u2019t ever approach this topic.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s because he\u2019s not as focused \u2013 or I might even say \u201cobsessed\u201d \u2013 with you.<\/p>\n

True Love Sign #7: He\u2019s always there for you<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Most women have a little trouble figuring this one out.<\/p>\n

But if you pay attention to his actions, there may be clues that he\u2019s not just in it for the physical intimacy.<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s constantly doing big AND small stuff for you, it\u2019s his way of letting you know about this true feelings.<\/p>\n

A lot of guys are more of doers than tellers when it comes to love.<\/p>\n

Also, chances are it\u2019s the real deal if he\u2019s taking note of the small details about you and putting them to good use later on.<\/p>\n

Maybe he knows how much you\u2019re into badly made horror movies, for instance.<\/p>\n

Then he\u2019ll surprise you with a couple of tickets for a midnight screening of that cult classic you were telling him about the other week.<\/p>\n

All this means your happiness is important to him\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026and any guy worth being with doesn\u2019t feel 100% like a man if he\u2019s not doing enough to take care of you.<\/p>\n

A guy who doesn\u2019t care, won\u2019t bother remembering those vital pieces of information. And he won\u2019t lift a finger to make you happy unless it benefits him in some way.<\/p>\n

True Love Sign #8: He\u2019s part of your life \u2013 and not just the fun parts<\/p>\n

Another way to tell he\u2019s in love with you if he\u2019s going out of his way to be part of your world.<\/p>\n

You might notice him trying to find out what you love doing, then tag along even though he\u2019s not into it himself.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll also be more than happy to meet the other people in your life because he wants to know you better.<\/p>\n

Being with your friends and seeing you in action helps him understand what makes you tick.<\/p>\n

A guy who\u2019s only interested in doing the deed won\u2019t be interested at all in seeing this other side of you.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t serve him in any way, and he doesn\u2019t need to take the relationship past sleeping with you.<\/p>\n

Fake love crumbles when things get tough. He won\u2019t muster the energy to get to know your passions and interests and doesn\u2019t care about the people important to you.<\/p>\n

Doing this takes time and effort. Whether or not he goes through this trouble is the real yardstick of his feelings for you.<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s willing to make sacrifices that he could have very well avoided\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026and he doesn\u2019t stop trying even when things aren\u2019t always great between you\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026then you\u2019d better hold on to him tight.<\/p>\n

This points to the fact that he\u2019s tenacious in the face of adversity, which is more than I can say for the Wham-Bam-Thank-You-Ma\u2019am kind of guys out there.<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019ve just been seeing a guy, or you\u2019ve known him for a long time, it\u2019s never a good sign if it just seems like he\u2019s phoning it in.<\/p>\n

Maybe he used to show the signs that he\u2019s got a solid commitment to you, but now you\u2019re not so sure about your future with him.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s often hard to pinpoint exactly why men pull away all of a sudden.<\/p>\n

But you don\u2019t have to panic if your relationship\u2019s going through this phase. There is a way to overcome the wall that men put up when they don\u2019t feel that fire anymore.<\/p>\n

What you need to do is understand how men think and get a good grasp of what makes them leave.<\/p>\n

This\u00a0video<\/a>\u00a0explains how to get around the problem of his emotional unavailability, and to make sure he doesn\u2019t ever think of leaving.<\/p>\n

Go ahead and watch this video now to prevent him from rejecting or abandoning you \u2013 CLICK HERE\u2026<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n

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