{"id":118,"date":"2018-08-15T23:36:00","date_gmt":"2018-08-15T23:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/makehimsure.com\/blog\/?p=118"},"modified":"2018-08-24T02:24:58","modified_gmt":"2018-08-24T02:24:58","slug":"10-signs-he-loves-you-even-if-he-doesnt-say-it-out-loud","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/makehimsure.com\/blog\/10-signs-he-loves-you-even-if-he-doesnt-say-it-out-loud\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs He Loves You (Even if He Doesn\u2019t Say it Out Loud)"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Slade Shaw
\nAuthor of\u00a0Why Men Pull Away<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

Learn exactly what pushes men to leave\u2026and how to NEVER feel abandoned or rejected<\/p>\n

Why Men Pull Away\u2026and What Makes Them STAY In Love<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n

10 Signs He Loves You (Even if He Doesn\u2019t Say it Out Loud)<\/h2>\n

\u201cIf a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn\u2019t want you, nothing can make him stay.\u201d \u2013 Oprah Winfrey<\/em><\/p>\n

In our hyperconnected world, people tend to throw around words that don\u2019t hold much weight.<\/p>\n

With social media in particular, a lot of folks often post stuff that doesn\u2019t have much in the way of value.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re either superficial (like cat videos or memes), or spout empty platitudes that pay lip service.<\/p>\n

And when it comes to relationships \u2013 or ones that have yet to get off the ground \u2013 people often say things they don\u2019t necessarily mean.<\/p>\n

A guy might tell you that he\u2019s in love with you, but his actions don\u2019t quite match up to his words. Or he could be, in fact, falling hard for you, but can\u2019t find the words to say it.<\/p>\n

Why is reading a guy\u2019s signs such a tricky business?<\/p>\n

Why can\u2019t he just drop the whole mixed signals act and be straight up with how he really feels about you?<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve probably met and dated a handful guys, so you know what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n

And I can totally understand if you\u2019re feeling a little jaded by men who can\u2019t seem to get it together and be honest about their feelings.<\/p>\n

Well, let me help you with that and give you the REAL signs that a guy\u2019s super serious about you \u2013 and worth waiting for.<\/p>\n

First, a Warning<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Ok, so today you\u2019re going to find out if a guy loves you \u2013 or if you should move on\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026but let me get something important out of the way real quick.<\/p>\n

You see, women talk about mixed signals all the time when they\u2019re trying to figure out where they stand with a Potential Someone.<\/p>\n

But here\u2019s what I always tell them: there\u2019s NOTHING \u201cmixed\u201d about a guy\u2019s signals.<\/p>\n

Everything he does \u2013 and doesn\u2019t do \u2013 is a clear indication of what\u2019s really going on in that head of his.<\/p>\n

And a lot of times, his words won\u2019t have as much weight as his ACTIONS.<\/p>\n

When the connection is there, and you already know you\u2019re bonkers for each other, saying those three words is just icing on the cake.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s wonderful to hear him drop the \u201cL\u201d word on you \u2013 but they\u2019ll only confirm what your HEART already knew long before.<\/p>\n

So now you\u2019re probably telling me, \u201cWhat do you think I am, some sort of psychic?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cSurely you don\u2019t expect me to open his mind like a book and \u2018already know\u2019 before he opens his mouth?\u201d<\/p>\n

I hear you \u2013 and that\u2019s why it\u2019s time to give you the Top 10 Ways To Tell He\u2019s Got It Bad For You:<\/strong><\/p>\n

#1: He\u2019ll Drop Clues<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Relax, you don\u2019t have to be Sherlock Holmes to crack the mystery of his heart.<\/p>\n

Most guys are not going to tell you about his feelings upfront (surprise, surprise), but it\u2019s not because they\u2019re trying to toy with your emotions.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s more of the fact that a lot of men aren\u2019t big on expressing themselves emotionally.<\/p>\n

I know a lot of guys who have trouble with this. They were raised to think that opening up and talking about this stuff isn\u2019t really a useful (or masculine) trait to have.<\/p>\n

And sadly, it\u2019s made it hard for them to talk about something as difficult as feelings\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026which makes professing their LOVE for you an even BIGGER challenge.<\/p>\n

But nonetheless, it\u2019s not that hard to decode the real meaning behind his somewhat cryptic statements.<\/p>\n

You just need to ask yourself a couple of important questions \u2013 and the answer will reveal itself soon enough:<\/p>\n

When he talks to me, does he make me feel I\u2019m important to him? (e.g. \u201cHey, I found that vintage 80s Rainbow Brite lunch box you were looking for\u2026it was on this guy\u2019s nostalgia collector\u2019s blog. I\u2019ll send you the link\u2026you owe me a coffee!\u201d)<\/p>\n

Is he implying that he\u2019s only interested in ME \u2013 and no one else? (e.g. \u201cMan, working at the office can be such a drag\u2026especially those noisy girls over at marketing with their faces buried in their Instagram pages. This place could use someone cool like you J\u201d)<\/p>\n

It\u2019s likely he\u2019ll try to mask it with humor or act nonchalant about it.<\/p>\n

But if there\u2019s that unmistakable spark of affection beneath it, he\u2019s probably not putting you in the Friend Zone anytime soon.<\/p>\n

Click here to discover the sure-fire way to make him stay\u2026<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

#2: He\u2019s got THAT look<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Yup, the eyes are windows to the soul and all that.<\/p>\n

But don\u2019t get all clinical and start measuring the diameter of his pupils. That would be weird\u2026<\/p>\n

Instead, think about the way he looks at you.<\/p>\n

Is he mesmerized by your mere presence?<\/p>\n

His eyes should be telling you, \u201cYou\u2019re too good to be real\u2026yet here you are.\u201d<\/p>\n

And is he constantly stealing glances at you? When you sneak a peek at your guy, do you catch him staring at you \u2013 then quickly looking away?<\/p>\n

Guys are visual creatures, as the saying goes. If he likes what he sees, he\u2019ll have a hard time tearing his eyes away.<\/p>\n

#3: He has ZERO excuses<\/strong><\/h3>\n

A guy in love isn\u2019t going to let his work or any other stuff he has going on to get in the way of seeing you.<\/p>\n

No matter how full his plate gets, he\u2019ll always squeeze in some \u201cwe time\u201d with you. You won\u2019t hear him making half-baked excuses that \u201cthings are crazy at work\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m kind of busy right now.\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the thing about a man who\u2019s into you: he\u2019ll move mountains to clear space in his week for you, and it SHOWS.<\/p>\n

And even if he\u2019s super busy at the moment, he\u2019ll always let you know what\u2019s going on with him.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll never make you feel like he\u2019s gone off the grid and keep you updated when he can see you again.<\/p>\n

#4: He keeps it REAL with you<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You know what I mean by this if you\u2019ve ever had a close friend who \u201ctells it like it is\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026and doesn\u2019t tell you what you want to hear, but what you NEED to hear.<\/p>\n

When a guy truly loves you, he understands what makes you tick.<\/p>\n

He knows BOTH your great and not-so-great qualities\u2026and yet he STILL thinks you\u2019re the greatest person he\u2019s met.<\/p>\n

And if he sees that you\u2019re not being the best you can be, this guy won\u2019t be afraid to point it out.<\/p>\n

But he\u2019s not going to be condescending or a jerk about it. He\u2019ll be more likely to tease you, bust your chops and give you \u201ca hard time\u201d rather than actually making you feel bad.<\/p>\n

#5: His time is YOUR time<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I mentioned early that it\u2019s a good sign when he makes you feel important. Another part of that is him going out of his way to do stuff together with you.<\/p>\n

This goes beyond moving important stuff in his calendar to see you.<\/p>\n

The operative word here is \u201ctogether\u201d.<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s trying to create a DEEPER bond by way of a regular ROUTINE, that\u2019s something you shouldn\u2019t ignore.<\/p>\n

Maybe he\u2019s taking the initiative to set up weekly activities like weekend coffee at his favorite hangout, or taking you along to his book club meeting to see if you might dig it.<\/p>\n

This is him moving from \u201csingle mode\u201d to a I-think-I-want-to-get -serious-with-this-girl mindset.<\/p>\n

Discover Why Men Pull Away \u2013 and make sure he\u2019ll NEVER leave you\u2026\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

#6: He totally puts you at ease<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When you don\u2019t know where you stand with someone, the way he acts and talks puts you on edge. You can\u2019t put your finger on it, but you know he\u2019s the flaky type.<\/p>\n

Not with this guy. Everything he says and does points to the fact that he\u2019s not going anywhere.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing ambiguous about him, especially with the way he makes you feel.<\/p>\n

Whether it\u2019s his choice of words (as indirect as they may be), his body language or the general vibe he gives off\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026you just know he wants to be on board \u2013 no ifs, ands or buts about it.<\/p>\n

#7: He knows it\u2019s not always about him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

We all have a tendency to be a little self-centered from time to time, and that\u2019s ok.<\/p>\n

But if a guy who loves you, you can see how much he\u2019s willing to meet you halfway with a lot of things.<\/p>\n

For instance, he\u2019s not going to insist on eating at that new Asian seafood restaurant that\u2019s been getting good Yelp reviews if you\u2019re not feeling it.<\/p>\n

And even though he\u2019s not a Greek cuisine kind of guy, he\u2019s cool about eating there because your preferences matter to him.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s just the kind of man he is.<\/p>\n

He knows relationships are a matter of give and take, which is why you\u2019ve got as much say in it as he does.<\/p>\n

#8: He\u2019s always trying to make you happy<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You probably don\u2019t want an overeager puppy of a guy waiting on hand and foot for your every need \u2013 that would be a little scary\u2026<\/p>\n

But you do want someone who\u2019s naturally attuned to your inner state and knows when something\u2019s off.<\/p>\n

You might not even say anything, but he knows when to swoop in and take action.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll ask if you want anything when he goes on a coffee run, offer you a ride to work before running his own errands, or even organize your DVD collection alphabetically.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, he\u2019s working overtime to make sure everything\u2019s fine and dandy in your world.<\/p>\n

If a man\u2019s in love, he LOVES knowing he gets to take care of you in the way he knows how.<\/p>\n

#9: The details matter to him<\/strong><\/h3>\n

John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute and author of \u201cThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work\u201d, has literally spent decades observing couples up close to understand how relationships work.<\/p>\n

In his research, he\u2019s found that the strongest couples make an effort to know each other\u2019s inner worlds.<\/p>\n

He calls this as having \u201cLove Maps\u201d, which is basically a detailed knowledge of what\u2019s going on with your partner.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s easy to tell when a guy is trying to create his love map for you, whether you\u2019ve known him for years or just getting to know him.<\/p>\n

According to Gottman, if he cares enough to know the \u201clittle\u201d things about you, it\u2019s a sign of a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

This includes stuff like your favorite place to eat, your greatest rival at work, your idea of the perfect job, your biggest dream, your best friends and so on.<\/p>\n

When you tell him about these things, naturally picks up on these little bits and pieces and saves them for future reference. He does this because he knows it makes up the amazing and unique person you are.<\/p>\n

#10: He\u2019s in it for the long haul<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Does your man have a certain tenacity to him? Is he the type who doesn\u2019t give up when he hits a roadblock in life?<\/p>\n

Would you even say he\u2019s a little stubborn?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to brush this off as a part of his masculine identity, but it may run deeper than you think.<\/p>\n

This quality could also be a promising sign if it carries over into the way he deals with you, and your relationship.<\/p>\n

You might have some past issues or baggage you\u2019ve picked up from your ex\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026or your differences with your guy are starting to bubble to the surface\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026or maybe he\u2019s going through some of his own stuff while trying to spend time with you.<\/p>\n

These challenges are totally par for the course for any relationship.<\/p>\n

So if these things don\u2019t phase him \u2013 and he\u2019s more than willing to power through them \u2013 well then, you\u2019ve got a keeper on your hands!<\/p>\n

Now, if you\u2019re seeing a couple of these signs in him, he might just be a really swell guy.<\/p>\n

It could be that he\u2019s awesome to everyone and only sees you as one of his friends.<\/p>\n

However, if he\u2019s checking off MOST of those boxes (like six or more), then you should be seriously thinking about your future with him\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026because he\u2019s probably thinking THAT way about you.<\/p>\n

Then there\u2019s the other possibility that you\u2019re not seeing any of these. There might be moments when it might seem like there\u2019s a glimmer of hope, but it\u2019s very faint.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, he\u2019s acting lukewarm towards you at best. If that\u2019s the case, DON\u2019T throw in the towel just yet!<\/p>\n

Some men need a little more gentle prodding and encouragement than others.<\/p>\n

If your gut is telling you there\u2019s a connection between you and Mr. Slightly Dense \u2013 and you\u2019re worried he might PULL AWAY for good\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026then it\u2019s time to seal the deal before he leaves forever:<\/p>\n

Check out this free video where I break down exactly what makes men LOSE INTEREST \u2013 Click here now!<\/strong><\/a><\/h3>\n

This is your chance to empower yourself with the knowledge and skills to pull yourself out of the Friend Zone, and into his heart \u2013 watch my presentation right here.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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